Your divorce may be finalized, and the child custody has already been granted to the appropriate parent, but that doesn’t mean everything is smooth sailing from now on. When you choose to remarry or cohabit with your new partner, the extended family might be involved in holidays and celebrations.
Here enters the issue of how blended families should deal with the family structure. Take note of the following:
Get Your Ex-Spouse’s Opinion
You may think it’s over and done with when it comes to your ex-spouse, but considering that they are the other parent of the children you’re introducing to a new family, they might have a say in the matter. Especially if your Boulder family law attorneys at Burnham Law Firm, P.C. have agreed that they retain some of their parental rights, you don’t want to step on their toes.
Talk to the Grandparents
The grandparents are there to help you with rearing the children. When it comes to special occasions, they might give more attention to their biological grandchildren more than others, and that could be a problem. Children may start to develop a competition among themselves because one is favored and the other isn’t. It might also tell a child of divorce that they are not loved or wanted, both in their original family and their new one.
Pay Attention to Your Children
When you are entering into a new marriage, and both you and your new spouse have children from previous marriages, you feel the need to build a relationship with your step-children. In the process, make sure you’re not neglecting your children. They need the reminder that they are not losing both parents even if both of them are starting families separately.
It takes some effort to make a blended family work. Make sure everyone’s on the same page.